HINT: Don’t tell your kids that they are. More than three decades of research shows that a focus on “process”—not on intelligence or ability—is key to success in school and in life.
Diligentia maximum etiam mediocris ingeni subsidium
Diligence is a very great help even to a mediocre intelligence.
difficile est tenere quae acceperis nisi exerceas
It ‘s hard to retain what you may have learned unless you should practice it.
Dimidium facti qui coepit habet
He who has begun has the work half done
faber est Quisque fortunae suae
every man is the architect of his own fortune
Look at the theme, it’s not about what comes easy to you- it’s about the fact that learning is work. It truly is a skill to learn how to learn. Current research ( and my own personal experience) show that there are two different mindsets.
One popular theory, pioneered by Carol Dweck, professor of psychology at Stanford University, is the idea of growth mindset. Dweck explains that some students believe ability is malleable and can be improved (a growth mindset), while others think it is set in stone, probably decided at birth (a fixed mindset). Evidence suggests that those with a growth mindset seek out feedback on how to get better, persist with work for longer and cope better with change – all attitudes teachers want to develop in their young charges.–Bradley Busch
One of the most important concepts I’ve learned is the difference between the “fixed” mindset and the “growth” mindset.
It’s a little bit like “nature vs. nurture”:
People with a fixed mindset believe you either are or aren’t good at something, based on your inherent nature because it’s just who you are.
People with a growth mindset believe anyone can be good at anything because your abilities are entirely due to your actions.
This sounds simple, but it’s surprisingly deep. The fixed mindset is the most common and the most harmful, so it’s worth understanding and considering how it’s affecting you and the people that you are teaching.
And this isn’t just about school- mindset affects every part of your life: Kids with the fixed mindset are the ones who react to taunting and bullying with thoughts of violent retaliation. Think about that.
In a fixed mindset you can believe that your qualities are fixed, your children’s qualities are fixed, and your relationship’s qualities are fixed – that it’s inherently good or bad, meant-to-be or not meant-to-be. Now all of these things are up for judgment. The growth mindset says all of these things can be developed. Everyone is capable of growth and change. In the fixed mindset, the idea is instant, perfect, and perpetual compatibility. Like it was meant to be.
So, you may recognize yourself as having a fixed mindset. You can change your mindset just by thinking it through and retraining your brain.
If you are interested in learning more about fixed vs. growth mindsets I will point you to these two books: